Since his young, Muhammad fills his days as a shepherd especially goat or sheep. He tends another people’s cattle and gets paid for his job. When he more grows up his age, more sheep and goat he tends, both his own and his uncle, or another people’s cattle which had been trusted and tended by him. This profession maybe is one kind of much identity from someone as a prophet candidate. Almost all prophets who are sent by God were stipulated as a sheep shepherd at his young age to prepare or to make ready when they became prophets. From Moses, Jacob, Jesus, and even Noah who’s taking care many kind animals.
Beside that job, in some certain time Muhammad also has another job, help his uncle Abu Thalib to do business sells some goods (their own goods or belongs to some other merchant) at market. Later, at the age of 12 years old offered by Abu Thalib to make a business trip into Syam region for the first time. With the result from tending cattle and make a business, Muhammad tries to make a living. This condition make Muhammad and his uncle life became better and better. The longer more grows up his age, Muhammad’s cattle quantity grows up also, and beside that more trusted by Mecca’s inhabitants in their business to trades their goods. At the age around 24 years old, Muhammad became one of the rich men in Mecca, from tending cattle and make a business, but still trusted by peoples. It proved that Muhammad is a reliable worker or trustworthy and also have big honesty heart. The climax, at age around 25 years old he trusted by a rich widow, a trader also, who’s name Khadija to help her sells some goods/stuff into Syam area. All her goods before, brought by her own staff. But, when she saw the successful and profit the other trader who’s trusted their stuff in Muhammad business make Khadija want to join with Muhammad group. In this business trip, Khadija didn’t follow but sends her trusted servant name Maisara to watch the business. Shortly, the business is successful with many profits which is made Khadija more surprise with Muhammad’s personality, and after few month later, Khadija send her family to ask Muhammad to marry her.
From the set of the story above, it is looks like that the reason of Khadija marry with Muhammad just because Muhammad was proved as a reliable worker in trading, famous, have big honesty, and successful. Does it just because of that short reason? The reason is too simple? Or there is some other reason? If we think objectively, the reason it doesn’t make sense or the story is too short. There are some other important reasons which un-discussed too much. So, some expert or historian try to opens and discuss some un-told part about this situation, the main reason why Khadija want to marry with Muhammad. There are one opinion which not much to be discussed by many peoples. This opinion said if the one possibility of what make Khadija want to marry with Muhammad is because she knew that inside Muhammad personality contain prophet identity, she knew that Muhammad is the chosen one, she knew if Muhammad is a prophet’s candidate, the new prophet chosen by God. How she knew about that? What the base of this opinion? And why Muhammad say yes to marry a widow 15 years older than his age? Why Muhammad accepts Khadija as a wife when he is at 25 years old and Khadija 40 years old, make 15 years old gap between them? Even more as a rich man, Muhammad on that marriage give 100 camels (or more) as a “mahar” which is as much as the price of one new and the best Mercedes Benz sedan price at this modern era.

Still about this marriage, the Khadija’s propose accepted by Muhammad because of some reason, good reasons, not because of wealth / property or beauty or something else worse just like what was accused by the people full of hatred into Muhammad. There are:
- Muhammad knew the Khadija’s families are from respected class with good ethics which is making sure that her family are weren’t from idol worshipper group and didn’t do bad habits like most of people on that era.
- Muhammad and Khadija have close family relation and their genealogy structures met at the 5th ancestors. Muhammad bin Abdullah bin Abdul Muthalib bin Hasyim bin Abdu Manaf bin Qushai bin Kilab bin Murrah. And Khadija bint Khuwaylid bin Asad bin Abdul Uzza bin Qushai. From this condition, he knew that Khadija is come from good ancestors.
- Khadija even she is older than Muhammad and also a widow, but at the point of view or opinion of Mecca’s peoples she is famous with her good personality, have noble deed, good character, not including idol worshipper group, generous / big hearted lady, have good business, and big possibility her religion is nasrani (Christian Unitarian sects).
Those are some reason of Muhammad to accept Khadija as his wife. In the other side, Khadija herself has some
other reason, which most important is she known if Muhammad is a prophet candidate chosen by God. Does it true she knew that Muhammad bring some prophet identities? How she knew that? Some histories give us clue about this. This opinion said, Khadija knew the prophet identity inside Muhammad years before they get married. Some reason and explanation about these are:
- Some of Khadija’s family especially the older man, aged persons, and family leader are priest or clergyman from “ahlu’l kitab” or Christian Unitarian Sects, expert on Torah and Bible and understood very much about the prophecy inside their holy books directly in the main language, Hebrew and Aramaic languages, as the ancient language of their holy books, not from the translation in their ordinary language (Arabic). These family members knew the prophecy about the new prophet.
- The other part of the story (un-enough to be discussed by historians), told that Khadija’s cousin (daughter of her uncle or aunt) almost get married with Abdullah, Muhammad’s father, but failed. To understanding and make conclusion about this detail, let us back to the past time before Muhammad born yet. Few years before 571M, when Khadija at 14-15 years old of her age, one of her uncle (ahlu’l kitab) saw some prophet identity on Abdullah personality. After make attentions for this person long enough, and look into in detail/check out with high confide in him, he think that person is the prophet which was promises by God. And soon after try to propose Abdullah for his daughter (perhaps she is in the same age or little older than Khadija). But God have another will, Abdullah met another woman whose name Aminah bint Wahab bin Abdu Manaf bin Zuhrah bin Kilab and finally marry her. Khadija’s uncle who’s loose out the plan/failed to connected between Abdullah and his daughter still waiting and informing the evidence or clue about the prophet identity on Abdullah to all family members and also heard by Khadija herself. But with the death of Abdullah in his young age after married with Aminah (even his son didn’t born yet). The “ahlu’l kitab” from this family still looking and searching just like what another ahlu’ kitab do, searching for the chosen one as the new prophet. Later, they found again the prophet identity inside Muhammad personality, son of Abdullah, and even clearer than his father. All this condition knew by Khadija also always following development of Muhammad’s life just like the other members. At that time, beside the Khadija’s family, many other “ahlu’l kitab” searching for that chosen one just like what their holy books promises. But, some of them who are believed with the prophecy didn’t want to let the prophet candidate stay alive. Many of them want to kill him because didn’t like if the chosen one didn’t come from their own tribe or nation. So, the good “ahlu’l kitab”, when saw prophet identity on a person personality, they will close and hidden the information to save the chosen one (and of course the chosen one will be saved by God). This reason strengthens by another priest name “Bukahira” who’s seeing the same thing with Muhammad. He met at Syam when Muhammad 12 years old, he believes also if Muhammad is the chosen one, the candidate of the new prophet, and because of that he advice his uncle, Abu Thalib, to get back to Mecca as soon as possible and take care Muhammad carefully and make him stay away from bad community.
Those are some most important reasons why Khadija want to marry Muhammad, beside of the reliable worker or trustworthy and also have big honesty heart of Muhammad personality, which is make her more loving him. So, after years later, when she was a widow, she tries to connecting again her family with Abdullah’s family. Now, she try to marry Muhammad son of Abdullah, just like what her uncle do for his daughter proposing Abdullah more than 25 years before. Also, she still believes with the messages from the family older man, if Muhammad is the prophet candidate. With this situation, the big believes of Khadija into Muhammad personality or the prophet identity it wasn’t after the revelation, but years before. That is why after Muhammad get the first revelation, Khadija directly face / go to his uncle Waraqah bin Naufal to tell him the situation about Muhammad get his first revelation. Her uncle, Waraqah, is a priest “ahlu’l kitab” just like many of his brothers, understood well about Torah and Bible directly from the ancient language Hebrew, not just from the translation in ordinary language (Arab), and he was blind as his old dizzies. When Khadija told the event / situation about Muhammad, he said that is true and validity of the prophet identity on Muhammad can’t be argued any more. This faith on her family makes Khadija as the first person who does believe with Muhammad as a prophet when much people say her husband was crazy. Even more, few days later after the first revelation, Khadija bring Muhammad to face Waraqah to seek some counseling or get some advice from him. At that moment, Waraqah advice Muhammad to be careful and also inform that someday he will be hunted to be killed by his close society / his surrounding or some group around him. Because that was the regulation from the God and that was what happens to all His prophets. From Moses, Jesus, and also Muhammad, all people whose bring God’s messages / God’s orders teaching, will be tortured or abused by their surrounding.

This is the writing about the reason why Khadija marry Muhammad, and that is why Khadija directly declare herself as a first Moslem without any doubt or confusion in early day of Muhammad’s life as prophet. Khadija is the most beloved wife /most favorite wife than the others.
Wallahu a’lam bi shawaf.
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