Islam is very concern about honesty, saying the truth attitude, and commitment in our social life. Rasulullah saw said: “Qul al-haq walau kana murran”, which means “say the truth even if it’s bitter”.
This order has two meaning, inside and outside. The first is the outside means, became honest, say which the true in front of others’ behavior, in front of friends, family, or even in front of bad authority. This is termed as “jihad bil lisan” and of course need bravery or “Assaja’ah”.
The next, the other meaning is about inside ourselves, became honest about ourselves’ behavior and associated with ourselves personality. Honesty always need big bravery, because most of us feel unpleasant, hated to do, and bitter to say the truth especially with ourselves problematic. That’s why we can say if someone who’s brave to confess his own guilty and say the truth about his fouls is shows his big heart and noble deed.
The ability to take a look at ourselves is a stairs to develop our personality. The capability to introspections ourselves needs high taste of fairness inside our heart or “muhasabah an nafsi”. This fairness also make us could see and feel our weakness aspects and dare to confess it, say which the truth. But, as we pointing out before, it’s hard to introspect inside ourselves; it’s hard to say which the true especially associated with ourselves’ problems.
That’s all about saying which the true from our point of view. But, how about peoples point of view, friends, relatives, family, society, etc. it’s all about the risk, “the bitter” aspects. Sometimes if we say the truth, it will make conflicts or seem to be rudeness to the others. So, sometimes when we want to say which the true, we think about hurt somebody else even if it’s a true statement. We afraid it will hurt our friends, relatives, or family, and also afraid if they will change their opinion about us, or maybe we afraid if they will hate us, or break up the relations, and much more. This aspect if we think more, its look so hard to say which the true. That’s why mostly common reactions if we see something wrong or we do some fouls, we didn’t say the true, but remain silent because we afraid to loose our friends or relatives, or hurt them in what we saying or doing.
It also exists some one feel “it is not a license to say anything I want” and feel guilty most times when it’s became equivalent of rudeness. This probably because the combination of emotions or something else aspects. There are also some other people said if we say the truth and filled it up with bravery and sympathy to the others, will not be hurting at all. Perhaps, if peoples around us accept openly what we have to say even if it is hurts, and will also good to trying to correct the others, saying the true will become useful for all of us; saying the truth, with no rudeness.
So, with this New Year event, let’s try to be honest and speak up the truth, do the best for our life and all people, keep our faith on the right pattern. Insyaallah.
Keep objectives and peace.
Happy New Year 1429H.
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